All of the above will take 20 years of your life. You won't have time for leisure swim at the resort vacation. You'll have to monitor the children movement all the time. You won't have time to enjoy yout me time. There's no such thing as romantic life. You won't have time to love. You won't have time to seek opportunity without sacrificing anything. I can guarantee you, once you try to grab any opportunity for your own growth, believe me, you will be missing the growth of your child. They will grow so fast that you can't even have time to rest.
With all the above expressions, 28 years will do you good. You will know, in living this world, you doesn't matter. Your love one do. You'll do whatever you can to fulfill their needs. You will loose your sleep. You will loose your weekend restday. You will loose your money, a lot. You will loose friends. You will loose your love life, your health, your perfect vacation. The only thing you will gain is your weight. Why? You won't have time for exercise, gym, or a simple 1 hour walk in the park. Everytime you bring your child outside for breakfast, lunch or dinner, the finisher of all the meal will be you. Why oh why they don't serve children portion for mee laksa, mee jawa, mee kolok?
Ah. Yes. Forgotten for a while. 28 years of fatherhood doesn't stop at graduation.. Now, you need to monitor their next phase of life. Working life. First, you need to make sure they are looking for a job and not living in your house, rent free with free food, water, wifi and electricity. A decent job with enough income for them to move out from your house soonest possible. Cruel? You have to. Do you still or want to live in your parents house? Forever? Some will say Yes but majority will say No. This part of life is monitoring from a distance. You can't put pressure to much or to release it to easily. Whatever they need, just support them. Just ok with it. They want to work thousands of mile away, let them go. Free them and you're free. NO. You are not free yet.
This part is the worst part of fatherhood. Marriage. I haven't experience this part in custom way, so I can't tell much. And worst part is, if you're doing this alone.
